Navigating the festive season if you are facing divorce

Did you know? In 2023, divorce rates per 1,000 married individuals were 8.6 for men and 8.5 for women (including opposite and same-sex couples). The median duration of marriages that ended in divorce was 12.7 years.

For those experiencing a marriage breakdown, the festive period can bring additional pressures, with an expectation of a perfect Christmas. However, the reality is that financial stress, culinary demands, time with in-laws, and keeping up appearances can be overwhelming.

In this article, Senior Consultant Family Law Solicitor Georgina Chase discusses tips to help you as a family manage Christmas following separation.

Plan Child Arrangements in Advance

Any arrangements made should always focus on what is in the best interests of the children. Ideally, parents should try to reach an agreement together. The earlier you start planning, the better. Not only will this cause you less stress, but you will have more time to iron out any issues you are struggling to agree on.

Use a schedule to plot out a plan for when each parent will spend time with the children, any key school activity dates, when extended families are visiting, and a list of presents to be purchased, to avoid duplicates.

Make sure the run-up to the big day is filled with excitement for the children, ensuring they know where they will be and who they will see. Try to shield children from any disputes in respect of arrangements, as they will pick up on conflict.

An application to the Court for a Child Arrangements Order should always be a last resort. If you are unable to agree on the arrangements together, consider first trying to reach an agreement via mediation or with the help of solicitors.

Positive Communication

Whilst Christmas may be hard with emotions running high, it is crucial to maintain a good relationship with your ex.

Children often get caught up in the separation of their parents. However, they will cope better when their parents are not in conflict and can see a joined-up approach to parenting.

Keep lines of communication open and ensure that the tone and language is positive, as this helps the potential to reach agreement. Avoid highly charged, emotional messages and don’t resort to social media.

Divorce doesn’t have to be a battle. See it as a negotiation and start the process with respect. No Fault Divorce, introduced on 6th April 2022, allows couples to get divorced without assigning blame, allowing spouses to concentrate on resolving the matrimonial finances and child arrangements in a more constructive manner.

Obtain Expert Legal Advice 

There is no substitute for obtaining expert legal advice. Whilst many couples wait until after Christmas to commence divorce proceedings, I recommend taking advice early, ideally before you make any decisions about your future.

Knowing where you stand, and receiving tailored advice that’s right for you and your family, will ensure you have peace of mind over the festive period.

To book a free 30-minute initial family law consultation, please contact Georgina direct: