Child Law Advice: Your Guide to Parental Rights, Arrangements and Disputes in the UK

Written by: [AUTHOR NAME], Family Law Solicitor, Setfords | Published: 5 August 2026 | Last reviewed: 5 August 2026 | Read time: 9 min

Separating from your child’s other parent doesn’t change your legal relationship with your child, even when contact decreases. This guide sets out clear child law advice on parental responsibility, how arrangements are decided, and what to do when you and the other parent can’t agree, under the law as it applies in England and Wales.

Key takeaways

• Parental responsibility is a legal status, not a measure of contact, so not seeing your child regularly doesn’t mean you’ve lost your legal rights over decisions in their life.
• There’s no default in favour of mothers: courts decide based on the child’s welfare, not either parent’s gender.
• Most parents must attend a Mediation Information and Assessment Meeting (MIAM) before applying for a court order, unless an exemption applies.
• A Child Arrangements Order is the legal document that sets out where a child lives and who they spend time with, and it’s enforceable.
• A repeal of the parental involvement presumption is moving through Parliament, and it’s worth understanding if you’re mid-dispute.

What does child law cover?

Child law in England and Wales covers who holds legal responsibility for a child, where a child lives, and how much time they spend with each parent. It applies whether you were married, in a civil partnership, or never lived together, and it applies equally to mothers and fathers.

The starting point for every decision, from a friendly conversation between parents to a contested court hearing, is the same: the child’s welfare comes first. If you’re looking for child law advice because an arrangement has broken down, you almost certainly still have a legal relationship with your child, there are steps short of court that are usually tried first, and a solicitor can normally tell you where you stand within a single conversation.

What is parental responsibility, and who has it?

Parental responsibility means the legal rights and duties you hold in relation to your child’s upbringing, including decisions about their education, medical treatment, religion, and name. It’s separate from day-to-day care and separate from how often you see your child.

Who has it automatically:

• A child’s birth mother always has parental responsibility.
• A father has it automatically if he was married to the mother when the child was born, or has been since.
• Unmarried fathers can get it by being named on the birth certificate, entering a parental responsibility agreement with the mother, or applying to court, as set out by gov.uk.

In practice, parental responsibility means that for significant decisions, such as changing your child’s school or taking them abroad to live, everyone with parental responsibility needs to agree. If you can’t agree, either parent can ask the court to decide through a specific issue order or prohibited steps order.

Parental responsibility lasts until your child turns 18, and it doesn’t disappear because you and the other parent separate, or because contact has stopped. Losing touch with your child is painful and difficult, but it isn’t the same as losing your legal position.

How does the law decide child arrangements?

Whatever the disagreement, the law always comes back to one question: what’s best for the child? That’s the child’s welfare, and it comes before anything else, including what feels fair between the parents. This is set out in the Children Act 1989, and it’s what every family court in England and Wales has to follow.

How courts weigh this up: when parents can’t agree, a judge looks at things like what the child themselves wants (taking their age into account), their emotional and practical needs, how a change might affect them, and whether either parent can meet those needs safely and well.

Gender doesn’t come into any of this. There’s a common and understandable myth, especially among fathers, that courts default to mothers. That isn’t how it works. A judge is looking at which arrangement is best for this child, based on the evidence, not which parent happens to be asking.

What’s changing: the repeal of the parental involvement presumption

Since 2014, the starting point in contested cases has been that each parent’s involvement is good for the child, unless there’s evidence to say otherwise. In October 2025, the government announced plans to remove that starting point altogether. That change is now working its way through Parliament as part of the Courts and Tribunals Bill.

Why this matters: the change follows evidence that assuming contact is always beneficial has, in some cases, led to unsafe arrangements where there’s a history of domestic abuse. If the repeal passes, courts will no longer start from an assumption in favour of involvement. They’ll continue to apply the welfare checklist on its own merits, which remains unaffected. The paramount welfare test itself isn’t changing, and the safeguards that already let a court restrict or refuse contact where a child is at risk aren’t new.

At the time of writing, this remains a bill, not yet law, so the current presumption still applies. If you have an ongoing case, it’s worth asking your solicitor how this development might affect your position as it progresses.

Sorting arrangements without going to court

Most parents are expected to try to resolve arrangements between themselves before turning to the court, and the law reflects this. If you want to apply for a Child Arrangements Order, you must usually attend a Mediation Information and Assessment Meeting (a MIAM) first, as required under the Children and Families Act 2014.

At a MIAM, an accredited mediator explains how mediation works and helps you both consider whether it’s suitable for your situation. Mediation is confidential, and nothing said there can be reported back to a court. If you reach an agreement, it can be turned into a legally binding consent order.

When mediation isn’t required: the MIAM requirement doesn’t apply where there’s evidence of domestic abuse, where the case is urgent, or in certain other specific circumstances. If safety is a concern, you don’t have to sit in a room with the other parent to move your case forward.

When you might need a Child Arrangements Order

A Child Arrangements Order is a court order that sets out where a child lives and when they spend time with each parent. It replaced the older “residence” and “contact” orders, and it’s legally enforceable once made.

You’re most likely to need one when mediation hasn’t worked, when the other parent isn’t engaging at all, or when there are safeguarding concerns that make direct negotiation unsafe or unrealistic. The application is made using form C100, alongside evidence that you’ve either attended a MIAM or qualify for an exemption.

Going to court doesn’t mean losing control of the outcome entirely. Many cases still settle by agreement at an early hearing, once both sides have proper legal advice and a clearer sense of how a court would view the dispute.

Common mistakes to avoid

1. Assuming no contact means no rights.
Parental responsibility doesn’t lapse because the other parent is limiting contact. Take advice before accepting that position.

2. Withholding contact informally, without legal advice.
Even where you’re worried about safety, acting alone and outside a court process can weaken your position later. Get advice first wherever you can.

3. Believing the mother automatically wins.
This shapes how some fathers approach negotiations, sometimes pushing them towards conflict rather than a workable outcome.

4. Skipping mediation before applying to court.
Applications are often rejected or delayed if you haven’t attended a MIAM and don’t have a valid exemption.

5. Leaving agreements undocumented.
An informal, verbal arrangement is much harder to enforce than a written parenting plan or a consent order.

When to speak to a solicitor

Family law can feel manageable right up until it isn’t, and a short conversation early on often prevents a much longer dispute later. It’s worth speaking to a solicitor if:

• The other parent has stopped or significantly reduced contact without agreement.
• You’re unsure whether you have parental responsibility, or how to get it.
• You’re worried about your child’s safety, or about allegations being made against you.
• Mediation hasn’t worked, or one of you has refused to attend.
• You want an informal arrangement made legally binding.

Understand your options and your timeline. Talk to a Setfords solicitor when you’re ready, whether that’s a first conversation or a case that’s already underway.

FAQs

Does a father automatically have parental responsibility?

Yes, if he was married to the mother when the child was born or afterwards. If he wasn’t, he can still get parental responsibility by being named on the birth certificate, agreeing it with the mother, or applying to the court.

Can a mother stop a father seeing his child?

Not unilaterally, and not without risk to her own position if she does so without good reason. Contact can only be legally restricted through a court order or a clear safeguarding justification, not by one parent simply deciding.

Do grandparents have legal rights to see their grandchildren?

Not automatically. Grandparents don’t have an automatic right to apply for a Child Arrangements Order and usually need the court’s permission first, though the child’s welfare and existing relationships are taken into account.

What happens if we can’t agree through mediation?

Either parent can apply to the family court for a Child Arrangements Order. The court will look at the welfare checklist and, where needed, involve Cafcass to help assess what’s in the child’s best interests.

Will the parental involvement law change affect my existing arrangement?

Not automatically, and not before the repeal becomes law. If you have an ongoing dispute or a case that hasn’t yet been decided, it’s worth checking with a solicitor how the change, once in force, might apply to you.

About the author

[AUTHOR NAME], Family Law Solicitor, Setfords

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Last reviewed: 5 August 2026.

This article is general information about child law in England and Wales and is not legal advice. The law and guidance in this area can change, and every family’s situation is different, so please speak to a qualified family law solicitor about your circumstances.

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