Tips for Dads Coping Without Their Kids on Father’s Day 

Father’s Day can be a particularly challenging time for dads who are not always with their children due to divorce or separation. Whether you’re in the midst of legal proceedings or it’s simply not your scheduled time, the day can bring about feelings of sadness, loneliness, and frustration. In this article, Alastair Sinclair, Senior Family Consultant at Setfords, shares some tips to help you cope and make the most of the situation if you are not with your kids this Father’s Day. 

Focus on Positive Actions 

Instead of dwelling on what you can’t do, think about what you can.  Here are some ideas to put into action: 

Virtual Connection: Modern technology offers great ways to stay connected. If you can’t physically see your children, arrange a video call. A simple FaceTime or Zoom call can bridge the gap and help you share special moments. You can also share messages with your children, letting them know you are thinking of them. 

Future Plans: Plan a special activity for the next time you see your children. It gives you something to look forward to and can create anticipation and excitement. 

Personal Messages: Writing cards or letters to your children can be a meaningful way to express your love and maintain a strong connection. 

Focus on the Time You Do Have 

Concentrate on making the most of the time you spend with your children, rather than focusing on the time you don’t.  

Special Celebrations: Celebrate Father’s Day on a different day if necessary. It may be easier to plan special activities and make reservations on non-holiday dates, any day can be Father’s Day if that’s what you decide with your kids! 

Memory Making: Create a list of fun activities to do with your children. Take photos during the activities and check them off as you complete them. This creates lasting memories and gives you something tangible to look forward to and look back on. 

Digital Detox 

Avoid social media on Father’s Day to prevent feelings of missing out. Taking a break from social media can help you focus on your own activities and avoid the comparisons that often lead to negative feelings. 

Seek Support and Professional Help 

Remember, it’s important to seek support if you need it. Consider joining a support group for fathers in similar situations. Sharing experiences and advice can provide comfort and practical help.  Here are some groups that could be helpful: 

DAD Info provides a range of resources including articles, forums, and helplines to support fathers in their parenting journey. The site covers topics from legal advice to health and well-being, aiming to support dads through various challenges. 

Families Need Fathers (FNF) is a UK charity that offers information, advice, and support services for fathers who are dealing with issues related to divorce and separation. They have local branch meetings, a helpline, and various resources to assist dads in maintaining a relationship with their children. 

If you’re struggling emotionally, don’t hesitate to seek help from a counsellor or therapist. Professional guidance can be incredibly beneficial in managing your feelings and navigating this challenging time. 

Keep Communication Open 

Maintaining open communication with your children, and if possible, with their other parent, can help alleviate some of the stress associated with Father’s Day. 

Regular Updates: Keep your children updated on your life and show consistent interest in theirs. Regular communication helps maintain a strong bond despite the physical distance. 

Remember, your choices and decisions are within your control. By focusing on positive actions and reframing your thoughts, you can create a more uplifting experience for yourself. 

If you need support or advice on family law matters, please contact me at Setfords.